error 10053 and zone alarm firewall

tbcbbq tbcbbq "at"
Sat Nov 26 09:20:02 2005

two problems:
  We are using zone alarm 5.5 and my friend has to close it for me to be able to log on to his machine.
  once i do get on after he dumps zone alarm, i keep getting an 'read:connection aborted (error 10053)".  I reconnect and everything is as it was, but it is a pain cuz it happens every minute.  I have avast antivirus and adaware (both updated and run daily).  Is it the firewall or are the viruses and crap worse than usual?
  Thank you,

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